Rules for Moving Tour – Review

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About the Book

From bestselling author Nancy Star comes a deeply moving novel about the truths we hide from others and the lies we tell ourselves.

To the outside world, beloved advice columnist Lane Meckler has all the answers. What no one knows is that she also has a secret: her life is a disaster, and it’s just gotten worse. Her husband, whom she was planning to leave, has died in a freak accident. Her six-year-old son, Henry, has stopped speaking to everyone but her. Lane’s solution? Move. Growing up, that was what her family did best.

But when she and Henry pack up and leave, Lane realizes that their next home is no better, and she finally begins to ask herself some hard questions. What made her family move so often? Why has she always felt like an outsider? How can she get Henry to speak?

On a journey to help her son find his voice, Lane discovers that somewhere along the way she lost her own. If she wants to help him, she’ll need to find the courage to face the past and to speak the truth she’s been hiding from for years.

Praise for Rules for Moving

“With Rules for Moving, Nancy Star takes us beyond the paywall to ask what happens when our favorite internet advice columnist needs help of her own. A tender exploration of family, friendship, and what it means to be the black sheep.” —Julia Phillips, National Book Award finalist, author of Disappearing Earth

“Nancy Star’s delightful and wise Rules for Moving could have been called Rules for Living. Advice columnist Lane offers her readers the help we would be lucky to receive: kind but unwaveringly honest, unexpected but utterly sensible. While Lane makes a boatload of mistakes, she never wavers in her fierce dedication to understanding and protecting her sweet but troubled young son, who Star paints with humor and rare insight. Readers will be transformed by watching Lane surmount her own tragedies with the grace and courage we dearly wish for ourselves.” —Lisa Gornick, author of The Peacock Feast and Louisa Meets Bear

“Rules for Moving highlights once again Nancy Star’s sense of humor and empathy for tender hearted people who are struggling to find a place in the world. I rooted for Lane Meckler, the snappy advice columnist who has no quick comeback when her six-year-old son goes silent with everyone but her. The novel is as suspenseful as a mystery and as wise as an Elizabeth Strout book.” —Alice Elliott Dark, author of In the Gloaming and Think of England

“An advice columnist in desperate need of advice. A son who won’t talk. A rented house unfit for habitation. Nancy Star’s poignant novel Rules for Moving captures the chaos and heartbreak that is life—and also the wonder and joy.” —Marcy Dermansky, author of Very Nice

“Nancy Star has written a beautiful, luminous novel filled with quirky characters so real you want to bring them home with you and give them some tea and a hug. This book has it all: an advice columnist who is struggling to follow her own best advice; an adorable little boy who has decided to stop talking; and an eccentric family that is burdened with secrets and rules. There is love and laughter and sweetness—and Star’s insightful writing and humor sweep us right to the heart of things. I loved every page!” —Maddie Dawson, Washington Post bestselling author of Matchmaking for Beginners


This book is both so sad and moving. It is a heartfelt story about a mother and her son navigating grief and finding a fresh perspective on life. Not only did we have a delightful cast of characters to familiarize ourselves with, but we also got this touching story that weaves between our mother and son.

I really liked the take on an advice columnist not knowing what to do. I think it’s so accurate because we can oftentimes dish out the best advice, but when it comes to our own lives we are lost. And this is a book about being lost. I mean, I couldn’t imagine what I would do if I were in the same circumstances. But as we follow Lane this story develops into something truly moving and inspiring. There were so many hidden layers that really added depth and movement to these characters.

And the characters were really special. I loved learning about Lane and her introspection. I really connected with her desire to move when things get tough, because I feel like I often act the same way (even if I only browse through Zillow instead of actually picking up and moving). And Henry was such an adorable character to get to know as well. These two will definitely enter your hearts and leave you with a sense of understanding.

About the Author

Nancy Star is the author of the bestselling novel Sisters One, Two, Three, a Publishers Weekly top ten print book and Amazon Kindle bestseller of 2016. Her previous novels, which have been translated into several languages, include Carpool Diem, Up Next, Now This, and Buried Lives. Her essays have appeared in the Washington Post, the New York Times, Money, and Family Circle. Before turning to writing fiction full-time, Nancy worked for over a decade as a movie executive at the Samuel Goldwyn Company and the Ladd Company, dividing her time between New York and London. She now lives in New Jersey and Martha’s Vineyard with her husband.

Tour Schedule

Sept 15th – Dani Reads

Sept. 16th – Girl Loves Dogs Books Wine

Sept. 16th – Books Are Magic Too

Sept. 18th  – Niks Nook

Sept. 23rd -Miss W Book Reviews

Sept. 25th – Books and Bites Roc

Sept. 28th – The Book Blondie 

Sept. 28th – Randi Reads

Sept. 30th – Bookoholic Cafe

Sept. 30th – Marilyn Goncalves 

Oct. 3rd – Well Read Traveler

Oct. 3rd – The Weekend Booker

Oct. 5th – Whitney Arnett

Oct. 7th – Sho Biz Reads

Oct. 8th – Love My Books 2020

Oct. 9th – Eli Loves Books 16

Oct. 10th – Texacali Books 

Oct. 10th – David L Morgan

Oct. 10th – Reading With Caffeine 

Oct. 11th  – Reader Then Blogger 

Oct. 12th – Delightfully Booked 

Oct. 15th – Coffee Books Dogs

Oct. 16th – Ya It’s Lit

Oct. 18th –  A Book And A Latte

Oct. 19th – Pages For Sanity

Oct. 19th  – Bookish Heidi

*I received a copy in exchange for an honest review*

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